Envy is when you lack what someone else has, but jealousy is a reaction to a real or imaginary threat of losing someone. Envy and jealousy have become synonymous, with jealousy now including envy.
Jealousy is the most prevalent negativity. It creates misery. Many relationship problems arise from jealousy.
There are many forms of jealousy such as love jealousy, money jealousy, property jealousy, sibling jealousy. Many murders and suicides are committed due to extreme jealousy.
How is Jealousy created? Jealousy is created through your own wrong understanding. Misunderstanding about love creates love jealousy. Remember, a mind that can be jealous cannot be loving, and a mind that is loving cannot be jealous. Love exists only when all negativities are dropped.
Condemning, fault finding, backbiting, blaming, accusing, ridiculing, criticizing, complaining, caviling, vilifying, and bullying stem from jealousy. Anger and hatred exist side by side with jealousy.
When your heart burns with jealousy when another individual is more prosperous or happy, how can you expect the peace of mind? What do you gain by being jealous of another?
The habit of comparing yourself to those who have more than you do causes jealousy. To get rid of this jealousy, start by first comparing yourself to those who have less than you do. This can help bring you into a greater sense of gratitude about your own lot. Feel grateful for what you have. Your entire life is a precious, unique gift from God. If you have education, freedom of thought, and speech, if you have shelter and enough food to eat every day, then you are far more blessed than many who live in this world, today. Count your blessings, both big and small. A sense of gratitude will then release an ever-fresh stream of contentment, peacefulness, and bliss. Eventually, you will understand that everyone is unique and incomparable and with this right understanding, you will be able to drop comparing altogether.
To get rid of jealousy, start growing your inner, divine wealth. Love your Self. Respect your Self. God dwells within you as your Self/Spirit. In the light of Spirit, the darkness of jealousy simply disappears.
“Every day think as you wake up:
Today I am fortunate to have woken up.
I am alive, I have a precious human life.
I am not going to waste it.
I am going to use all my energies to develop myself,
to expand my heart out to others,
to achieve enlightenment for
the benefit of all beings.
I am going to have
kind thoughts toward others.
I am not going to get angry
or think badly about others.
I am going to benefit others
as much as I can.”
– H.H. the XIV Dalai Lama
"We are identified with the ego, and with the ego, there are many things: anger and hatred and jealousy and possessiveness and greed - the whole train. The ego functions like an engine and there are many compartments following it. Once the ego dies the whole train stops." -- Osho
"When you're a beautiful person on the inside, nothing in the world can change that about you. Jealousy is the result of one's lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-acceptance. The Lesson: If you can't accept yourself, then certainly no one else will." -- Sasha Azevedo
"You are jealous because you are unaware that everything you need is inside you." -- Peter Deunov